Grace Expectations

No human will ever be able to meet our deepest needs. This is something I’ve learned over my life.

We often put undue pressure on our husbands, children, friends and family to fill a void in our lives, to be a certain way, or to be who we think they should be so they can meet our needs and our expectations.  Whether we are aware we do this or if we do this unknowingly, it’s wrong.

Let me say it again, no human will ever be able to meet our deepest needs.

It is Jesus’ job to fill that part of our soul and no one else can do it.

Our husbands, friends, family, etc.…WILL fail us, just as we WILL fail them.  They will hurt us, mainly because of these unseen expectations or needs we want them to meet for us.

People will let us down…we live in a fallen world and are naturally sinful and selfish.  By knowing this and remembering this, we can let grace slide into our hurts and our disappointments from others.  This does not mean we are a doormat.  This does not mean that we hide how we are feeling from others, but that we share it openly and honestly with love because unresolved conflict can erupt or turn into bitterness if bottled up.

When we allow Jesus to reside in us and in our relationships there is so much love and grace ready and waiting to be poured out. We should lovingly let others know what we need from them, but give them grace when (not if) they fall short.

And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work.” 2 Corinthians 9:8

We are given grace everyday abundantly…grace, forgiveness, no bitterness bottling up from Jesus –how freeing is that!?  Let others go.  Set them free of these expectations and just love them.  As unselfishly and as purely as Jesus will let you (is there a cap on that!? I doubt it!).

Love Him and Love others.

The day Jesus Christ died on the cross grace abounded for those who believe and follow Him.  The grace unseen that is weaved throughout Scripture before this one sacrificial act caused grace to truly burst forth for us (can I get a “Thank you, Lord”!?).  Grace that is available to all people if they accept it.  For us to truly offer grace to others we must learn to accept it and embrace it for ourselves. Because of this grace so freely given to us, we are empowered and equipped to give it to others.

Who do we need to free up of certain expectations we have placed on them?  In what relationships do we need to let go of anger, bitterness or resentfulness today (even if we never get the “I’m sorry” we may crave?)?

Lord, You are grace unending. And sometimes we just don’t understand it.  I pray You would help us understand it for ourselves so we can openly give it to others in the freedom of the cross.  Help us recognize where we need to show grace to others in our lives.  You created us beautifully, uniquely, and it’s awesome! You are so creative!  Your hope for us is that we would love You and love others.  You love us with such freedom of grace; grace and love with no strings attached, no performance we have to do to be yours…help us to love Your people with this same love and grace.  In the freedom of the cross may we love and love and then love some more.  In our Savior’s beautiful name, Amen

My Thoughts ~ a Poem and Prayer

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Does anyone else ever struggle with thoughts that carry you away from reality? I went through a terrible season of that a few years ago. While these words are from that time, and the Lord has done a work on my thoughts and mind, I am still in continual need of mind-renewing. Grateful He is our help for just that! For more on this click here. 

When my mind is a mess, what can I do?                                                                                 My thoughts, oh Lord, you must renew!

My heart and soul love You but my mind seems so stuck.                                                    Please, dear Father, lift me out of this muck.

Teach me your ways, help me know You are near.                                                               Teach me to live my life without any fear.

Keep the distracting thoughts at bay;                                                                                        for only You can make a way.

Reign in my heart, reign in my head.                                                                                         Only by You may my spirit be led.

May I think on things pleasing to You.                                                                                       My thoughts, oh Lord, continually make new!

In Your son Jesus’ name I pray.                                                                                                   The name above all and only way.

 

When We Don’t Know Why, God is in the Why

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In less than a year, our community has lost two precious women I had the privilege of knowing. They both loved the Lord and lived for Him, teaching others His Word and shining brightly for Him. They leave behind husbands and children…and it all seems so unfair.

I find myself asking God a lot of questions– “Why?” “Why someone who loves You and follows You?” “Women who teach Your Word?” “Why someone so young?” “Why, Lord?” “Why these women, these moms still raising children?”

I know we are supposed to ask “What now?” rather than “Why?” But for today, I cannot stop the why. And that’s ok because God is in the why. It’s in our questions and our desperation that we seek Him and if we seek Him we will find Him.

I feel that when I doubt God’s plan or His ways I am disregarding all the truths I know to be true about Him, but as long as I find myself back at His truth’s, its’ OK to ask questions, right? Surely His grace still overflows when our hearts are breaking in the unfairness of life and the why’s that may never be answered.

As I wrestle with why, these truths stand out to me the most:

  • God is good even when life isn’t
  • He is always there with His people and to help His people
  • He can redeem hard situations
  • To these women, to live was Christ and to die was gain
  • Even in death and tragedy, others can be saved (hello, Jesus!- the cross!) or brought closer to Him
  • This place is not our home
  • We will be reunited again one day

We just don’t want these people gone from us, do we? We want them here to continue to do God’s work, don’t we?

Then I’m reminded that our work on earth is never done; even when we die, what’s done for Christ will last and these ladies certainly did a lot for Christ. A lot of eternal work. The impact they had on their families, friends, church, and community will live on forever.

“Only one life, ’twill soon be past, only what’s done for Christ will last.” C.T. Studd

God is always working for those who love him as I know these women and their families do. We must hold on to that truth and fill it in our minds when we wrestle with the “whys” of this world.

“God causes all things to work together for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28

To my town as we mourn…let’s turn to Jesus and seek His face as I’m sure these women, if still with us, would be so honored and happy if we would all do just that. And please pray- when the only thing you can do is pray, you pray.

In Jesus Mighty name, AMEN.

Verses to cling to from God’s Word, the Book both of these women stood on:

  • “My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts. My ways are far beyond anything we could imagine.” Isaiah 55:8-9
  • “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” Proverbs 3:5
  • “O Israel, hope in the Lord; for with the Lord there is lovingkindness, and with Him is abundant redemption.” Psalms 130:7
  • “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalms 34:18
  • “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10

There are a million more I could post, but I encourage us all to get into His Word for ourselves and let the truths of who He is comfort and guide us.

For Wendy and Kristie ♥️

To the Anderson and Stokes families…you all are loved and prayed for by so many people who grieve with you. Praying you see, feel and know that the Lord is near.

 

Something Brand New

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Lord we need something brand new.

It can only be done with our eyes on You.

May our foundation be ever so strong

Built to last a lifetime long.

Built on You the ground floor is laid

Brick by brick the price has been paid.

You poured out your love for us on the cross

Our gain of Heaven in Christ’s brief loss.

He was resurrected, redeemed and restored

You still do this here and now, don’t you, Lord?

A plan you have a future you hold

A love story in us waiting to be told

Work mightily in our hearts today

You, Oh Lord, are the only way.

Happy Resurrection Sunday dear friends! Praying we all set our hearts and sights anew today.  Jesus is continually in the business of making all things ~ and anything ~  new. No better time to start than today, Easter Sunday 2019.

Have a wonderful day celebrating Jesus and the beauty He brings- in worship, in our children, in our marriages, in our faith. Praising Him today. Love you all, Sarah


God Knows What’s Next

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God knows what’s next.

He knew the day His one and only perfect blameless Son was brutally beaten and murdered what was coming next. He knew He had a plan of redemption for not just His Son, but for anyone who believes and accepts His love, grace and forgiveness.

He knows what’s next.

And sometimes that’s hard for me because I want to know what’s next. I want to know what’s coming so I can be prepared. Braced and ready for whatever. But I’ve always heard that when someone about to have a wreck tightens up because they know a collision is about to happen, their injuries are worse and they are more sore than if their body hadn’t of known what was coming; if they had just gone with whatever happened next.

So while sometime this blind-sighting of pain or tragedy can feel like a betrayal by God- we must know He is not a god of betrayal. He is a good God who loves us more deeply than we can imagine. He knows what’s next but He also knows there’s always a way out and a plan of redemption and healing. In Him, through Him and only with Him.

He knew what was next that gruesome Friday. He knew Sunday was coming.

Are you in a Friday moment? Hold on, Sunday’s coming. ♥️

“He is not afraid of bad news; his heart is firm, trusting in the Lord.” Psalms‬ ‭112:7‬